Although Valentine’s Day has passed, February is a good month to learn more about self-love. More and more, women focus on others and forget to foster a relationship with the most important person of all; yourself. At the end of the day, you are the one that has to live with yourself and how you feel; many people forget this and tend to push off self-love and caring for your own needs. Here are some important elements of learning compassion and self-love.
Put Yourself First (or at least closer to the top): We, as women, tend to confuse our priorities on a daily basis. Our children, spouses, jobs, finances, etc. all become more important than caring for ourselves. It’s important to care just as much about our own needs than others’. We feel as though putting ourself first or at the top of the list is selfish; when we put ourselves in that mindset, we forget that we cannot help others until we have helped ourselves.
Be Yourself: If you are feeling stifled by to-do lists, places to go and people to see, it’s important to remember who you are. If you know that each of these so-called priorities are going to cause you to put on a different persona, due to stress, expectations, etc., always remember who you are at your core. Pretending to be something you aren’t only makes it harder to love yourself for every element of your personality, every flaw and everything that makes you amazing.
Make Time: Do not forget to set aside time to love yourself. If that means meditation, yoga, reading, gardening, whatever it is, do it. Being in your element, doing something you love, will only remind yourself that you are important and that you are your own worst critic.
Important Choices: Put caring, loving and supportive people at the top of your list. Sure, this isn’t always a choice (like at work, etc.,) but when you can, make sure that you have surrounded yourself with only people who will lift you up. Make sure that your personal relationships are only fostering self-love, and not creating a hostile or doubtful mind.
Balance & Boundaries: Are you a ‘yes’ woman? Always afraid to say no for fear or missing out or causing a fuss? This is a major element of self-love; we forget to love on ourselves and create good balance and boundaries. Do not fear saying no; we need to be more aware of the time constraints on ourselves and let certain things fall to the wayside.
Jim Rohn once said “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Never forget to put that person first.